I don't normally Blog during the week, I save it for more of a weekend inspirational thing. But I felt led to on this day for certain reasons.
As most know we are living with 2 technically called "grown chidlren". I say it like that because they are nowhere near grown and have much growing to do. As I have said before . . . age holds no factor for telling us when we are grown. I could say we are walking through the valley of grown children. I know other friends will agree to that statement. Having grown children is SUPPOSED to get easier. I mean wouldn't you think that is the normal order of process? You start out being the over protective Mother who moves through all the different stages along with her child. . . and one day *POOF* . . . you've done all the best you can possibly do, you send them on their way, and they start their new and exciting life in God's plans for them! Maybe that's how it works for some, but I'm thinking on this side of life. . . not so much. Probably moreso on the "not" side than the "is" side . . . and I believe that's where satan can trip us up. I get caught up in thinking everyone else's kids are so responsible, so on top of things, so right with God, so goal oriented, in such a great relatoinship with their parents......you name it! But if truth be told and if I went home with all these "wonderful" kids I'm sure God would show me otherwise. We never know what another is living with or through....however "wonderful" it may appear. Don't be deceived!
Without telling you everything you don't want to know . . . I will share with you that both my daughters have left home on their own for a couple of years and now have returned. God has His reasons why they are both back here and if I'm honest with you I have to ask "Why?' at times. They have both experienced their side of freedom, answering to themselves only (or so they thought....we always answer to God). One has lived a life I would have never chosen for her. But in all of this. . . I love them. I love them with my love and I love them with God's love.
In their return and in their stay, it has not been easy. God doesn't call us to a life of ease does He. Let me say as a Mother with small and growing children at home, you KNOW what your role is. When those "children" leave home and return. . . you pretty much haven't a clue what your role is. You are no longer the Mother who guides, protects, corrects, soothes all of life's hurts away. You are now one who prays, who trusts, who hopes, who tries not to fear the worst, who gives all control whatsoever over to the one and only true God. Sound easy? It should. God is faithful, trustworthy, far more knowledgeable than you EVER could be, loves them more than you do and He is the One with all the plans that are in His control.
But at times, we wonder. . . God what am I supposed to do to help guide these "grown kids"? What so-called rules am I supposed to place on them and say "NOT IN MY HOUSE YOU WON'T!" What am I to expect from them? What do they expect from me?
And this is where we can trip up.
You see it isn't about us anymore. We are D O N E. We rasied them to know right from wrong, to seek God with all of their hearts, to have a relationship and fellowship with God, to be for the most part (I hope) be responsible for themselves, to respect themselves and those around them. In all honesty, I have battled this. I have looked at other people's chidlren's lives and said "Why arent mine like this?" "Lord, what can I DO to make them be more responsible, more respectful, more seeking of God's will, plans and desires???" In doing that, it has caused hurt and friction in places it should NOT be.
But wait. . . . the whole ENTIRE reason I'm sharing this Blog with you is for this reason and this reason alone! It is something my truely wonderful husband has known and tried to show me all along.... As well, my dear Mother herself. And that is FAITH and faith alone. Faith that when GOD is ready He will turn their hearts and minds around, faith that when they go astray He will bring them back safely, faith that these kids were His all along and He just let me borrow them for a short season......faith that He is the Sovereign Lord He says He is and will ALWAYS and forever be in control....of them as well as me.
A very perfectlly perfect example my Mother told me just this morning. My Dad had NO parental figures in his life whatsoever. He left home as a very young boy to live on his own. The only godly influence I would say he ever had was when he was able to go to the little country church. My Dad was living a life that was not right before he met my Mother. I tell you all of that to say that when God was ready and His timing was perfect, He showed my Dad this was not the life that was right for him, that it was not God's plans for him to continue down this path. And in that time God changed my Dad's heart for the RIGHT plans!
You see it took NO parents making corrections, or guidances, or stipulations and no high expectations of him to turn him around. It was God and God alone who did it. No one else....period! That in and of itself gives me great hope and peace. . . knowing that it requires nothing of me..... absolutely nothing! I'm free!! Know that as my very wise husband has put it......we will continue to love our children and to live a godly life before them., and to pray for them .....but it's in God's hands the outcome. . . .no matter what. : )
Thanks for letting me share some really heart felt stuff.
I sincerely would appreciate any and all your prayers.
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